To My Mentor

To My Mentor:

This isn't the first letter I have written you, in fact I remember the first letter I wrote to you on real paper with real pen in junior year history class. Now I am using a combination of something called Microsoft Word, an iPhone, and Facebook…we've come a long way baby! Who knows what the next letter will entail, maybe I may just search for that old paper and pencil from the last century ;)

I have been lucky enough to have you as a friend and mentor for well over 15 years now. You first taught me how to have and maintain female confidence, you taught me about relationships and how to handle both love and loss. You taught me about forgiveness and how friendships can survive distance if they are important enough. You taught me MORE about relationships and about self-respect, even during the times I didn't have enough of it for myself you told me the consequences (in a letter as well I believe) of not having enough but when I didn't listen you knew the best way to make it stick was learning that for myself.

Then the next segment of life began for the both of us – real jobs, real relationships, followed by families. This is where a period of perseverance got us both where we are today. Maybe what seems like through very different life paths, but I was lucky enough to have you as a sister in life to show me by example, support me no matter what, and be there without judgment when I needed you the most. Then the most scary part came – you told me the cold hard truth about childbirth and the time following – that’s true love right there!

Your life change had already came twice when my life change came along and I am thankful for that. It allowed you to mentor and teach me in a whole different way. To say I didn't know what the heck I was doing would be a understatement but I always thought of you whether I thought I was doing it right, wrong, or the way I wanted to do it. That was probably the best lesson about motherhood that you gave me – only I knew the right way for my kiddo and it was perfectly fine if it didn't match anyone else’s way.

When the going seemed to get a little tougher, you introduced us (for a second and less annoying time) to Rachel Coleman – in fact we just got finished reading a Signing Time book as that is still a huge part of our life and communication. You taught me how what we eat can really affect us, not to mention kids. You teach me how to try and be a more patient mother in the everyday - it's like WWSD if I can hold back a loud voice or snap in the moment. You listened even if it had to be over email because we both had our hands full. And you have never forgotten us, and we have never forgotten you! 

I am happy to know our friendship and my learning from you is far from finished – in fact I am about to begin a couple new journeys that will need much brain picking. I love you very much and am so grateful to have you in my life! Have a beautiful birthday my friend and a fantastic year – in which I will make an in person visit more of a priority!

Live, laugh, love –

Your student and friend (I think the image below captures us perfectly)

P.S. It's a "home day" and has only taken me roughly 2 hours to get this done. 

It's Not Personal, It's Business

Tomorrow we or I go into the world of man’s law. Many people may think they live in this world of man’s law every day and I guess to a point they do: speeding limits, work uniforms, following codes, paying fines, etc. There are some of us who are, no matter the circumstances, obliged to cross our family lives and members into the world of man’s law because of choices we have made for our families or ourselves out of what we deemed best. And in a lot of those situations, I think people chose to do what was right or best for their families in the long run. I do know that good or bad, some had no choice at all.

I had a choice. I chose life for my child, life free of physical harm for myself, and a journey that would be very difficult but lead me back to my faith and my family. This choice entered me and my child into the world of man’s law that I am speaking of. The one I enter into again tomorrow – full of prosecutors, respondents, defendants, magistrates, and lastly judges. It’s the latter one that decides either if I know what is “best” for the child I have been nurturing and raising for 4 years or if he knows best. A man who I have never met.

I know that when I enter man’s world the other part of my kiddo’s last name will likely be present and possibly (due to history of my experience in the world of man’s law) declare mis-truths about me or himself. I wish I could say he was a Godly man or believed in God, however, I can say neither which makes the world of man’s law a little more difficult.

So once again I fluff and hang the court clothes on the door, get my papers ready, say more than one prayer, and prepare to perform the task I learned of holding my own hand behind my back pretending it belongs to someone else, shoulders back, and face man and his world of law.